Domestic Violence Resources

Below is a list of books that the staff use day in and day out to help victims of Domestic Violence:

Why Does He Do That?

By Lundy Bancroft

He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..." Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: The early warning signs. Nine abusive personality types. How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will. The role of drugs and alcohol, What can be fixed, and what can't, How to leave a relationship safely This volume offers women guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analyzing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answering questions about the warning signs of abuse.

When Dad Hurts Mom

By Lundy Bancroft

Can my partner abuse me and still be a good parent? Should I stay with my partner for my children's sake? How should I talk to my children about the abuse and help them heal? Am I a bad mother?
Mothers in physically or emotionally abusive relationships ask themselves these questions every day. Here, a counselor reveals how abusers interact with and manipulate children-and how mothers can help their children recover from the trauma of witnessing abuse.
This book, the first ever of its kind, shows mothers how to:
• Protect children and help them heal emotionally
• Provide love, support, and positive role models, even in the midst of abuse
• Increase their chances of winning custody
• Help their kids feel good about themselves

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

By Lundy Bancroft and Jac Patrissi

In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward-with or without their partners.
Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:
• Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working
• Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem
• Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority
• Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship work

When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can't Do Anything Right

By Ann R. Jones and Susan Schecter

Millions of women each year find themselves in relationships with controlling or abusive partners and don't know what to do, or even what's wrong. A woman may feel anxious, inadequate, intimidated — and as if she is walking on tiptoe. And she may find herself trying harder and harder to make things right without ever being successful. Ann Jones and Susan Schechter bring together their more than fifteen years of experience working with women in abusive relationships to offer an eye-opening new analysis of controlling partners and a wealth of empowering information for women who want to change their lives for the better. Full of moving first-person stories, When Love Goes Wrong shows women what their options are in or out of the relationship, provides concrete guidance on finding safety and support for themselves and their children, and includes a comprehensive list of agencies offering information or assistance.

Crossing the Bridge: A Journey in Self-Esteem, Relationships and Life Balance 1st Edition

*By Sandra Negley , Amy L. Leutenberg *

Crossing the Bridge is a comprehensive, interactive book for use with individuals or groups. The purpose of this book is to provide a guide, a starting point for self-discovery and the enhancement of people's quality of life.
Crossing the Bridge is a collection of ideas and worksheets which have been written and implemented from Sandy's therapeutic work of the past twenty years. It is based on the fundamental concepts of self-esteem development.
This book is FILLED with meaningful stories, easy-to-read but challenging self-esteem lessons, and tried and true reproducible activity handouts and journalizing pages. Includes facilitator's section for the leader.

The Relationship Workbook

*By Kerry Moles *

Ages 16 - Adults. This book is a practical resource addressing domestic violence prevention and intervention. This collection of 72 reproducible worksheets will help individuals and couples develop skills for creating and maintaining healthy relationships. The program can be easily customized for group facilitators working with older teens and adults. Each of 50 topics covered has one or more reproducible worksheets and a facilitator's information sheet. The language, illustrations and content are applicable to diverse client populations, including male and female perpetrators and survivors of domestic violence, people in same-sex relationships, adults healing from childhood exposure to violence and people in nonviolent relationships